While some women may find the perfect man, one who is receptive to women's feelings and is open to sharing his own, it's unrealistic to expect that your current man is an expert at communicating his emotions. Instead, do what you can to make it easier for your man to talk about feelings.
A healthy relationship requires good communication, and a large part of that is talking about your feelings. So get through to your man better by following some tenets for speaking a man's language.
Wait for an opportune moment.
Your concern may be urgent, but if you talk about it at the wrong time your man might not receive it well. Don't start with "We have to talk", because he might take it as a sign that he's done something wrong and is in trouble.
Instead, let him breathe easy by getting his attention when he isn't busy. Don't approach when he's engrossed in his favorite team's deciding match, or if he's at the edge of his seat competing in an online game. Wait until he is finished and start the conversation when he isn't occupied.
It isn't impossible to talk to him after a difficult day, just make sure to help him relax and forget about the stress before talking. Give him a foot rub or massage his neck, and then initiate the serious conversation when you see that he's already relaxed.
Prepare your points.
Know what you want to say and state them clearly. Practice how you're going to start the conversation and listen closely to your tone when you talk. Brevity is key when talking to a man. Spew out too many details or drone on, and you risk losing his attention or having him miss a lot of the points you want to make.
Shoot straight.
Be honest, clear, and direct. If he hurt your feelings, tell him. If you love him, tell him about it too! Avoid giving him cryptic messages. Men love getting things done, so don't force him to read between the lines or you may end up disappointed.
If you mean something, then say it plainly. Speaking in tongues can be frustrating for a man as this can be construed as not paying attention at all.
Exclude your past.
Don't ever mention past relationships when talking about your feelings. Comparing may be an effective way of expressing a point, but not when talking about your feelings towards your boyfriend and your exes. He may feel inadequate and think that you are not over your past.
When preparing to give your points, take into account the way you will give your arguments so you don't accidently compare him to your past.
Don't hide it.
Men are able to share their feelings if coaxed properly, so be a good catalyst and show him that he can be secure with you. Share your feelings without sounding accusatory. Say "I'm feeling down and neglected." instead of "You work too much and don't make time for me anymore".
The word feel is key here. Say what you feel as a result of something instead of pointing out his mistake. Do this and he'll be more inclined to listen to your problems.
The door to a man's feelings is shut like a vault but with the right combination, you will be able to get him to open up to you. Sharing each other's feelings is key to a happy relationship, so prepare and act the right way, and you should be on the right path. Good Luck!
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