Desiring love from other people usually happens when you fail to fully love or understand yourself. If you always feel like other people don't love you enough, then that's a sign that you need to start learning how to love yourself.
If you find yourself always craving for love, you must find ways to put an end to it as early as now. Here are the ways to do it.
Acknowledge the things you love.
What are the things that you love doing? What do you like having in your life? Knowing the things that make you happy is important and helps keep your craving for love at bay. Jot down a list of hobbies that you enjoy doing. Is it painting, writing, reading, knitting, hiking, or doing makeup? Whatever your hobbies are, acknowledge them. Also be open to new ones that you've always wanted to try!
Write down your positive traits.
Evaluate yourself and find the good in you, not just the physical aspect, but how you are as a person. What personality traits do you have that are positive? Are you kind, friendly, practical, compassionate, or trustworthy? If you enjoy helping other people, write that down. Remember to only list down your positive traits.
Look for things in your life that you can improve.
There will always be things in your life that need improvement, but there are also things that you simply cannot change. Focus on what you can improve and do your best to turn these things around. If you're unhappy with your financial situation, look for ways that you can earn more, save more, and spend less. If you feel like you've built a wall around you, learn how to let people in. Whatever it is that you think you need to improve, write it down.
Focus on yourself.
A lot of people are unhappy because they focus more on other people, forgetting that they have to take care of themselves too. They tend to get caught up in making other people's lives better because they believe that giving is better than receiving. While it may be true that giving is better than receiving, it's wrong to completely neglect yourself. Promise yourself that you are going to focus on YOU this time. Don't try to make other people happy all the time when you're not even doing anything to make yourself happy. So give yourself the time, love, and effort that you deserve.
Take it one step at a time.
When you've written down the things that you can improve on, choose one and start working on it. Don't do everything all at once because you might only get overwhelmed. Take it one step at a time. Begin with minor improvements and then work on the major ones as you progress. For example, if you need to get your health back on track, start going for the healthier meal options and start doing light exercises, such as walking or jogging. Every step you take towards total improvement will encourage you to keep moving forward, and achieve even the biggest changes you need to make.
Enjoy.
So you've listed down your hobbies, right? Now start doing them and enjoy yourself! Choose one that you want to start with. It can be an old hobby, or a new one that you've always wanted to try. Engage in your hobbies whenever you have free time, and especially when you're stressed out. When you finally learn how to enjoy yourself, you'll be so engrossed with how much fun you're having that you won't keep craving for love and attention from others.
Rebuild your confidence.
If you've previously lost your confidence, it's time to start rebuilding it. Take a look at the list of positive traits that you have. When something happens that knocks down your confidence, remind yourself about your good qualities. You'll be surprised that the more confidence you have, the more you motivated you will be to become a better person. And in no time, you'll be adding more positive traits to your list.
Put yourself out there.
Once you've regained your confidence, there's no stopping you from going out there and connecting with people, may it be your old friends or new ones. When you have confidence, you don't have to keep worrying about what other people think of you. Just be yourself and never pretend to be someone you're not just so you can please others. Enjoy their company and they'll enjoy yours too.
When you recognize and acknowledge the great things about yourself, and finally learn to live for YOU, your craving for love from others will eventually go away. You'll start to realize that happiness doesn't only come from the love that other people can give you.
In the end, when you give yourself the love that you deserve, other people will follow suit. What other forms of self-love do you recommend? Let us know in the comments below!
