How to Find Out if a Guy is a Player

In a nutshell, players are guys who date several women at the same time, often hiding them from one another. Of course, players don't put their game out in the open. Any guy could be a player, whether he's a friend or someone you would want to date.

While it may not be that easy to spot a player, especially one who's been playing the game for years, there are warning signs that can help you find out if a man is a player or not. Save yourself from heartbreak and know how to spot a player from a mile away.

He's too self-absorbed.

A player will never be fully interested in you because the truth is, he only cares about himself. He's good at pretending that he's interested in you, your whereabouts, and your life. But that's all it is, pretense. He may ask questions about you, but quickly shifts back the topic to him. He likes to talk about himself a lot.

And because he only cares about himself, he won't bother remembering details about your life, or your problems. He won't be there for you when you need him because clearly, he's not planning on being in a serious relationship with you. Only a non-player would show that he cares about you more than himself.

It's easier to remember the details of multiple partners when he never asks for them, am I right?

He behaves differently around his buddies.

Players are like chameleons who change their colors depending on their environment. If he suddenly transforms into another person when he's with his friends, and it's like you almost don't recognize him at all, he might be a player. If he shows you affection when you two are alone, but acts completely disinterested when you're around other people, it might be because he's protecting his player image. He wouldn't want his friends to think that he got whipped!

Players usually don't want their friends to know about who they are dating. If he's a player, he won't introduce you to his friends right away. Maybe to a few, who already know about his antics, but not to those who might potentially blow his cover.

He is secretive about his whereabouts.

If he's loyal, then he wouldn't have any problems telling you where he is or what he is doing. If he's always sneaky and secretive about his location, then he's most definitely a player. One of the major reasons why he won't share his whereabouts with you is because he's with another girl. If you ask him about his whereabouts and his explanation doesn't match up, he's likely hiding something, or worse, someone.

He's just too good to be true.

A player is a great actor. He'll make you believe that he's the man of your dreams and there's nobody else you'd rather be with. You'll easily fall for the aura of perfection that he exudes. He'll say the things that you want to hear and do the things that would please you. He will play the role of a perfect boyfriend just so he can get what he wants from you.

His presence can be overwhelming, especially when he's still putting on a show. But once he gets bored with you, he'll stop making any effort to please you. The perfect guy simply vanishes never to be heard of from again. Not even a text or a phone call.

Keep your eyes peeled for clues. You might even want to compare him with the other guys you know. If he shows player-like behavior, then chances are, he is one.

Do you have other ways of finding out if a guy is a player? Let us know in the comments below!