How to Gently Break Up with your Girlfriend

Let's face it. There is no easy way to break up with someone especially if it's with a woman. Women are a fireball of emotions and breaking up without hurting her feelings is just impossible. The best thing you can do is end the relationship in a way that causes the least tension possible. To help you out are some tips on how to gently break up with your girlfriend.

Break up once you know how you feel

It's selfish to stay in a relationship that you know isn't going anywhere. It'll only lead to resentment from both parties as you could've done it sooner and saved both of each other's time. Do both you and your girlfriend a favor and break up with her as soon as you realize it isn't working anymore. Facing the fire is better than dragging the burn long enough that you find yourself reduced to ashes.

Think of your reasons

Before confronting her, take the time to think about the real reason of the break up. The better you will be at explaining to her the thought process behind why you want to break up. You want to be honest but not too honest as this might just hurt her feelings even more. For example, you can't just say, "I'm leaving you because I don't like your family and I'm too good for you." Practice tact and consider placing the blame on yourself.

Avoid being vague as this will only confuse her leading her to figure out for herself what the real reason for the break up was.

Listen to what she has to say

After you've broken up, she may cry or not say anything at all. But if she responds with questions, be respectful and answer her honestly. After all, she deserves it and it'll be easier for her to move on when she knows the truth. If she begs for you to stay, gently tell her that you've already made up your mind.

Don't break up over the phone

Again, you don't want to leave a woman feeling confused after a breakup. Breaking up over the phone is an insult to the relationship you once shared and exhibits a cowardly attitude. If you are serious about minimizing the pain of the break up, the best way to do it is in person, face to face. Not only does this show that you respect your former relationship, it also provides closure making it easier for the both of you to move on with your lives.

Break up with her in private

You don't want to make a scene by breaking up with her in public. It's normal for your girlfriend to feel sad, angry, and hurt during a breakup. Give her an outlet to express these emotions without the judgement of passersby. It can be at her apartment or a quiet nook in the park.

Break contact with her

After you have terminated the relationship for good, avoid contacting her. Don't call, text, or email her. As much as you want to check on her to make sure she is doing okay, you must not. Remember, you want this break up to be as drama-free as possible. The last thing you want to do is hurt her even more by giving her false hope.

It's very important to show some respect when breaking up with someone. Not just for their well-being but for yours too. Should you have a new relationship in the future, you don't want to be haunted by feelings of guilt and resentment from your ex.

Can you think of other ways to make a breakup less painful? Let us know in the comments!