Having a crush on someone can give you a daily dose of happiness and excitement. But talking to your crush, however, can feel like the hardest challenge a girl could face. Why? Because your crush could be someone you're not in regular contact with.
You only express your affection for him at a distance, where not a single whisper of your heart can be heard. It's easy to fall under his spell, idealize him, and become intimidated because the truth is that you don't really know what kind of person he is. Rather, you like the idea of what he might be like.
So, how do you talk to him and get him to talk to you?
Introduce yourself
Say hello and tell him your name. This is the simplest way to get the ball rolling. Simplicity oftentimes is the best approach, and the key to making this kind of situation work. "Hi, I'm (your name), and you are?" is easy to say, but it can greatly affect your future conversations.
Once you find out his name is and his reaction to a stranger introducing themselves to him, you'll have a better idea of him now that he's not just a face you crush on.
Use his interests to get him to open up to you
As your conversation progresses, move on to asking him questions that are related to his interests. Surely, you know some things about this guy just by crushing on him from afar.
For example, you often see him getting coffee at a quaint coffee shop, so he probably likes coffee. Don't tell him you already know because you risk sounding stalker-ish. Instead, when you're at the caf�, buy him coffee, give it to him and ask, "I got an extra cup of coffee. Do you want one?"
Try to avoid dead air in the middle of your conversation. No matter how random the topic gets, remember to be a good sport at listening.
Share a familiar story
Share a story that he can relate to. When he notices a similarity in experience, interests, and personality, he'll be more inclined to feel connected to you. For example, if you have the same interests over a TV series or book, talk to him about it.
Did he just watch the latest episode of a certain show? Did he already get a copy of a certain author's book? He'll be delighted to talk to someone who can relate to his interests.
Deepen your connection
Ask him about the things that you have observed about him. It could be the clothes he's wearing, the cologne he's using, or the book he's holding. Guys love to talk about themselves, so if you ask him about these things, you'll have the opportunity to know more about his tastes and habits.
As your friendship deepens and he begins to feel that he can trust you, you will learn things about him that only a few people know.
Also, try to encourage him in the best way that you can because guys can get easily discouraged.
Respond to his questions too
Answer his questions when it's his turn to get to know you. It is unfair to let him share details about himself without you sharing information about yourself. This might only creep him out. Give him enough information so the two of you can find a common ground and keep the conversation going.
Keep in mind that he's just a person, whom you can actually talk to and get to know. When you get over your fear of approaching him, talking to him will be as easy as talking to your best friend. Calm your nerves and just let him enjoy your company. And before you know it you've already bagged a date with your crush!
Do you have other suggestions for approaching a crush? Feel free to share your ideas in the comments below!
