Is He the One? Some Questions You Should Ask Him Before Deciding

Dating is fun and exciting, but not everyone you date can give you what you want. It can take some time to find the right person for you. If you are fortunate enough, you may find the right one on your first try. But oftentimes, you have to get into several relationships before you find "the one".

If you're in a relationship, or you're starting to date someone, and you want to find out if this guy is Mr. Right, there are some questions that can help make the answer clear. Remember, it's not going to be an interrogation. Just drop in these questions subtly at different times.

Ask about his stand on commitment indirectly

It's not a secret that some guys are allergic to commitment. However, it's not nice to ask him right away whether he's willing to commit in a long-term relationship with you, especially on the first date or during the early stages of a relationship.

There's a big chance you'll scare him away. What you can do instead is come up with questions that will indirectly answer your questions about his stand on commitment. Try to ask him about his social life and his previous relationships. If at least a few of them lasted long enough, there's a chance he's not afraid of commitment.

Ask about his past relationships

Aside from asking him about his past relationships, knowing how his relationships went can help you get an idea on what he would be like as a boyfriend.

However, if this kind of questions make you feel uncomfortable, you can resort to asking about how his relationship with his family is going. You'll know what he's like as a person by the way he talks about his family. If he speaks about them with utmost respect and delight, there's a possibility that he might be a good boyfriend, and future husband, too.

Ask questions that would tell if you're compatible

Compatibility plays a big role in strengthening the foundation of your relationship. Knowing that you are compatible with a guy can really help you know if he's the one for you.

The truth is, no matter how much you like someone, if the way you interact with each other looks like you're two species from totally different planets, the chances of your relationship working is slim.

So, create a list of the things that matter to you, and then ask him what his opinions are about these things. If you learn that you have similar mindsets, you can take it as a sign that you are compatible.

Ask about his future plans

If your dream future involves having a family, the guy you're in a relationship with must also have the same goals. Ask him what his future plans are. Find out if he sees you in it, and if he also wants the same things as you do.

If you want to have children, but he doesn't see himself as a father in the future, this could create a conflict.

However, you have to pick the right timing when you ask about this. Avoid asking this when you've just started dating as it could scare him. Wait until you feel that your relationship is getting deeper. This way, he'll be more comfortable answering such serious questions. If your future plans don't align, he may be not the one for you.

If you find "The One" right away, consider yourself lucky. Not everyone gets that chance. So, do your best to nurture your relationship. Don't let him get away!

What are other ways to find out if a guy is the Mr. Right? Share your thoughts in the comments below!