One thing's for sure: dating a drama queen will take you on an emotional roller coaster. They often have emotional ups and downs. They crave for attention so much that they are often the ones to start the drama in their lives; may it be in their families, friendships, workplaces, and even romantic relationships. Not everyone can put up with the melodramatic tendencies of a drama queen. Can you?
If you are dating a drama queen, you need to create a clear and mutual understanding that unnecessary drama cannot be accepted and tolerated.
Here are a few tips that may help you:
Set clear boundaries.
How much drama are you willing to put up with? Make sure that you set boundaries and that she is aware of what they are. If you are going through different kinds of drama every day and it's becoming too much for you to handle, be sure to let her know and make her understand why you don't like it. If she refuses to cooperate, you might want to tell her that your relationship won't work out in the long run if she keeps creating drama.
Listen to her.
Her dramatic episodes may be annoying, but you have to listen to her when she's having one. While your participation or advice may not be necessary, your presence is already valuable enough. Drama queens just need someone to be there to listen when they're getting a load off their chest. So, if you want your relationship with a drama queen to work out, be prepared to listen to all her problems, no matter how petty some of them can be.
Be straightforward, but polite.
When she's being unreasonable, be man enough to tell her straight to her face that she is, indeed, being unreasonable. Be honest, but don't be rude. You can even do it in a joking or teasing manner. Just don't make it worse. Yes, as previously mentioned, you need to listen to her, but you also have to let her know when her dramatic episodes are becoming unreasonable. She needs to know when to stop.
Keep calm when she's not.
When she is being melodramatic, it's your job to keep the balance. You need to stay calm because if you become as emotional as her, the situation will only blow up in your faces making it worse than you had anticipated. So, if she yells at you, hold on to your patience and just remain calm. She'll get over it eventually.
Distract her when she's being dramatic.
When she's having one of her episodes again, quickly change the subject so she can forget what she was angry or frustrated about. Try to make the air lighter. Don't add fuel to the fire by agreeing with every rant that comes out of her mouth or even bringing it up at a later time.
If it's not making you happy, it's not meant to be.
When you realize that your relationship with a drama queen isn't making you happy anymore, don't be afraid to end it. If you've had enough of her antics, then leave. She should be dating someone who is be able to handle all her drama. And as for you, try dating someone less melodramatic next time.
In Summary
Be careful in choosing who you want to date, and own your decision when her dramatic tendencies are clearly written on the label. Look out for warning signs and see if this new woman you're eyeing is a drama queen or not. You can easily tell just by having a conversation with her, or asking around.
What are your opinions on dating a drama queen? Do you think it's worth it? Feel free to leave your comments below!
